Pre-marital pregnancy for Cambodian women really faces many problems, especially criticism of members of society. This criticism is a serious psychological pressure that can force the women to attempt suicide to abandon their families. Pay for work and ruin the future.
Socheat is the name of the author. Socheat, a 28-year-old from Kampong Speu province, works as a garment worker at a factory in Phnom Penh. In 2011, Socheat fell in love with a six-year-old girl from Ratanakkiri province.
Despite her family's opposition to their relationship, she decided to live with him. With love and satisfaction. Socheat said that in the first three months, she received love and attention from the young man, but after Knowing that she was pregnant, the young man found every way to escape from her.
Eventually everything fell on her alone after the young man left Phnom Penh and returned. His home is back in the province, and Socheat has been severely reprimanded by his family and criticized by Villagers. Socheat also said that this is a painful experience that other women should consider carefully before Decide to do something for its future.
"I want to warn you that in the future, if someone comforts you by phone or comes to live with us, do not be deceived, do not be deceived. Because I have children alone. They left a month ago because I did not want to have a painful history like me. Every day, even my neighbors, when I was pregnant, they were angry and hated me. He did not want to talk to me. "Before I gave birth, I was almost dead."
From the time she was seven months pregnant, she lived in one of the most difficult mental and economic conditions of her family because She had to stop working in the factory due to unfavorable health. Socheat thought of killing himself. But everything was relieved after Socheat received emotional and material support from the organization. Mother.
Maternal Motivation was established in 2010 to provide pregnancy counseling and support services. To single women who have their first unplanned pregnancy, such as victims of rape, street trafficking Sex and being abandoned by your partner.
Socheat got to know Mother Motivation through the guidance of another NGO working in social work.
"I am very happy to be in this organization. He helped me, both mother and child, okay, maybe I'm not alive today. Since my baby was two months old, I think I want to take medicine a few times, but I feel sorry for my baby. Do not want to hurt it.
Ms. Soeng Samchos, a social worker for the Mother Motivation organization, said that women who were pregnant before marriage or not married and did not Most planned severe psychological crises due to tradition and social pressures. Ms. Samchos said that women should be encouraged and helped to find solutions rather than blame. Humiliation, which is why they may decide to commit suicide.
"He faces, first of all, shame is very important. That means he is very shy. Whenever she became pregnant, she was confused. He did not know where to go, he forgot. It means that he is ashamed of his neighbors, especially his family society. Sometimes he was ridiculed and ignored, like blaming him a lot. It's really hard for him. If there is no organization to help him because our country is different from foreign culture because he has children without a husband Laugh at him a lot.
Maternal Motivation always gives these women three options: abortion, foster care, and so on. Giving the child to another family for adoption. However, the staff of the organization always explain in detail to the women the advantages and disadvantages of each option before working Decide. For women who decide to have an abortion, the organization finds a safe abortion service and helps pay for it.
As for self-adoption, the organization provides pregnancy monitoring services at public hospitals, accommodation, food costs. Daily until delivery, with delivery fee and provision of materials for baby and mother during delivery, such as mosquito nets Blankets, pillows, towels and so on. From birth to one and a half years old, the organization provides milk and pants, urine and other items for babies. As for the mother, after giving birth three months ago, the organization helps to find a place to teach skills to support her future life. And if you do not have a caregiver, the organization has a place to take care of you at the lowest possible cost. Mother.
As for the option to continue the pregnancy and then give the child to another family to raise the same support organization as the second option, but after giving birth, the organization Contact other partner organizations to find families who want to adopt children.
Secretary of State for Women's Affairs Cedine Finn said the activities of the Mothers' Motive were a contribution Which helps Cambodian society, especially to alleviate the hardships of women who are in crisis during pregnancy. But she called on all Cambodian women to better preserve Cambodian traditions for the honor of family and society.
"As young women, we must know how to preserve our cultural traditions, our women's values, so that each family can receive Happiness is precious without problems. Ah, there is an organization that encourages mothers to help. But in reality, this complication, as you have done, affects the value of women themselves, affects the family and makes it difficult. To society.
Motherhood is funded by donations from people living in Australia and some international organizations.
Ms. Samphors said that so far, Mother Motivation has provided services to more than 60 women, including Including children of schoolgirls working in factories, women companies, victims of rape and sex trafficking. They range in age from 12 to 35.
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